Practical Tip #27 Be Humbled

Awhile back I was watching a teaching by Cindy Bultema from her Red Hot Faith Bible Study.   She shared a time in her life she had to schedule people to help her in her home.

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Practical Tip #26 -Vacation in Surfside, South Carolina!

I was excited to read on about a vacation spot for special need families.  For a long time I have thought if businesses would be open-minded to serving special need families life would be better for both.  Many families stay home because it can be easier than going out.  Becky Large, mother of an Autistic child came up with the idea of a family vacation spot where everyone would, “Understand,” your loved one with autism and other special needs.

I just love Becky using her life to help others in this journey of autism.  Yes a judgement free zone is what families need.  We all know when we enter the public square our families are being watched.  It is just how life is.  Many times I do not encounter negative judgements.  I am truly thankful for this.  Often when we are out we do not encounter other special need families.  I think the community side of a vacation is a really great idea.

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Practical Tip #25- Decorating for Christmas



This Great tip came to me from the Sol and Rachel Do a Blog! 

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Decorating a Christmas Tree was a long-term goal in our house for many years.  Tristan’s sensory issues posed real challenges for our family.  We became super creative!  I wish I would have thought about making a felt tree.  What a great idea!

Some ideas that we have tried:

1.Decorating and hanging a paper tree on the wall.

2.Putting a tree up with no lights. (Tristan would eat them.  I think he liked the sound of them crunching.)

3. Putting up a tree with “safe” paper ornaments.

4. Putting up ornaments and resigning ourselves to the fact Tristan will move them around the tree.


What ideas/ and or challenges have you overcome in terms of decorating for Christmas?  Please share!


Practical Tip #22 Chores & Special Need Children

A month after Tristan was placed in our family, we had early intervention therapists come to our home.  Susan was Tristan’s developmental therapist.  She came to our home weekly for two years.  Susan and I spent a lot of time together. I clearly remember one of our chats. She would gently encourage me by saying, “ALL children need to do chores.  A child needs to feel like part of the family.  Special needs children must do chores.”


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Practical Tip #21 Immunizations


If there were one area of parenting I could skip, it would be immunizations. Just the thought of Tristan getting shots causes me great anxiety.  One reason being is I do not do well with needles.  Another reason is that there is no way to explain to Tristan what is going to happen to him.  He will understand to a degree but then will freak out. Tristan is developmentally around a 2 to 4 year old in a twelve year old body. Here is what we have learned along the way.

1.  Bring an extra adult with. Brian and I both went and brought a friend,

2. Go to the health department- or another place other than your doctor office.

3  Alert receptionist/ staff to not say key words:  nurse, doctor, shot

These could trigger the child’s anxiety.  It has taken us a long time to figure this out.

4.  Ask the nurse to get shots ready and do not prep in front of child.  Explain to the nurse your child has anxiety so do              everything FAST.  Explain to the nurse you have enough adults to assist.  We explained his special needs and took a few minutes to talk to our nurse.  Tristan did not go back until everything was ready.

5. We had Tristan sit on Brian’s lap in a chair.  The extra adult and I were ready to hold down Tristan if needed    .

Tristan’s two shots were given so fast that he didn’t really have time to re-act.

Let me just say that I sweated over this for a very long time.  I can not believe how smooth the process went.  I kept waiting for Tristan to really get mad.  He did not.   We did take him out to eat at his favorite fast food restaurant.

Do you have any tips to share on this topic?

Hope this encourages you as you prepare for the next school year!